When friends encourage you to ‘fight back’
Posted By: suzy Miller on 16/02/2023 at 23:26
In response to Daniele’s reflection via a text message just now… Be Careful. People will express their own unresolved anger by subconsciously getting you to act it out – it’s their stuff, not yours. You are being given the gift of learning to let go and not be triggered – so you won’t carry that burden into the future and find yourself encouraging someone else in the years to come to ‘fight their corner’!
No disrespect to your friend. But it’s a sign of your growing wisdom that you are making your own decisions now and thinking longer term.
Thank you so much. She said she is just wind up because of ex and his mum and what they are doing... But you are right, she did go through a lot with her narc sister so maybe this is triggering for her without realising it. I told her i appreciate she is concerned for me but i have to loose this battle to win the war. Thank you Suzy, for being my rational brain and holding my hand through this. I kinda knew what your answer would be.... as i learnt so much from you... but i just wanted to check that i needed to let this one go.... Thank you
Daniela