Sukhvir – some feedback on your situation

Posted By: Suzy Miller on 02/04/2025 at 18:25

In response to your update, I suggest that if you haven’t already been introduced to specialist mediator Joanne Phillips, let me know in the support group CHAT and I’ll intro you. I think you need a second opinion on whether or not mediation will work. Having lawyers present isn’t going to make it work any better!

Also, you have the option of arbitration if mediation doesn’t give you the full agreement you need – if you want intros to arbitrators, let me know in the Chat.

Henry is able to help you work out alternative funding options, though doing some homework first will help. Do you want an intro to a mortgage/refinancing professional for a no-obligation chat?

Yes – if you’ve not spoken to Henry, request a no-obligation session with him via the CHAT. It would a smart move.

Bear in mind – if your STBX is difficult and likely to drag you towards court, you need to demonstrate how hard you’ve worked to pursue things out of court. So demonstrate that you have invited your STBX to mediation, even if the outlook looks bleak. Then arbitration if they say no. Give the court every reason to assign legal fees you’ve spent to your STBX. And the fact she might get lumbered with your costs, will make her more likely to also want to stay out of court.

I have a template letter that lays it all out, but I do recommend that the tone is adjusted with the help of Ruth before sending – and also you need to actually offer the peaceful options first so that you can record those actions within the text of the letter.

Paying lawyers to sit with you during mediation is going to be expensive, and unless there are some complex legal aspects you need immediate advice on during the the sessions, I really don’t see the benefit to you or quite frankly, to your STBX.