If looking to encourage your solicitors to commit to keeping you out of court if at all possible - that’s what these lawyers have committed to: <a href="https://members.amicabledivorcenetwork.co.uk/member-directory/" target="_blank">https://members.amicabledivorcenetwork.co.uk/member-directory/</a>

I’ll make that intro to Ruth now. However I do recommend talking also to the financial expert as unless you have got a clear long-term cash flow forecast justifying the way you want to split the assets, then what exactly is it that your mediating? It’s vital to be able to justify the way you want to split the assets, because if you then do get dragged to court, you’ve got something that even not a very clever judge could understand and think was perfectly reasonable. That judge would then be much more open to the fact that you shouldn’t be in court at all and that you have genuinely tried to stay out and have a strong case for costs. If you’ve already got a mediator who is experience working with very difficult people, then fantastic. If you do need someone who is much more experienced in that area, and who also works collaboratively allowing professionals to come into the mediation to explain the finances for example, or to provide emotional support off-screen during sessions, then some mediators are happy to do that but others are not. All of the above are part of the strategies of keeping you out of court. I would recommend that your Mediator applies to join the Amicable Divorce Network UK if they haven’t already. And also your solicitor. By using solicitors from the amicable Divorce UK again you are demonstrating your intention to stay out of court.

Suzy, please can you put me in touch with the "communicating with a difficult Ex" expert? For me, this is a process I am already deep into. So I'm looking to pick and choose individual pieces from your resources to supplement what I'm already doing via my divorce solicitor and mediator.

I'll get that template letter over later Sukhvir. And shall I make those intros for complimentary no obligation consultations with the financial, mediation and 'communicating with a difficult Ex' - experts? It's important that you provide a clear pathway to staying out of court to validate the fact that your ex has no need to access the courts, and therefore, should pay your costs.