Notice letter
Posted By: Daniela on 03/09/2022 at 21:03
Hi Suzy,
I have drafted the Notice letter. Anything else I missed, or you think I should add? Thank you for your help
NOTICE TO VACATE (the address)
In my previous letter, dated 17th May 2022, I asked you to move out of the above flat by 23rd May 2022.
As the divorce will be over soon, I am giving you one month notice from today. Please vacate the flat and handover the key by …………… and clear the outside storage and the bedroom so I can use it.
Your outstanding bills from **********, a total of £££.
Once you settle into your new place, we can get into a successful co-parenting rhythm.
Thank you for your cooperation.
Re phrase - how about: “the sooner you are settled in a new home then the sooner we can get into a healthy co-parenting rhythm for the benefit our son.”
Suzy Miller
What do you think of this? "The sooner you are settled in a new home then the sooner we can get into a healthy co-parenting rhythm for the benefit our son. We will be able to structure/ schedule things in advance for our son, so he will know what to expect in the future and enjoy the plans and time he has with each of us in more relaxed environments. The co-parenting plan is set up and waiting for your proposals/discussion on Splitsmart co-parenting plan (join link in your previous email sent to you few months ago)."
Daniela
What do you think of this? "The sooner you are settled in a new home then the sooner we can get into a healthy co-parenting rhythm for the benefit our son. We will be able to structure/ schedule things in advance for our son, so he will know what to expect in the future and enjoy the plans and time he has with each of us in more relaxed environments. The co-parenting plan is set up and waiting for your proposals/discussion on Splitsmart co-parenting plan (join link in your previous email sent to you few months ago)."
Daniela
Re phrase - how about: “the sooner you are settled in a new home then the sooner we can get into a healthy co-parenting rhythm for the benefit our son.”
Suzy Miller
So, just this comment about the bedroom is enough then? ---".....and clear the outside storage and the bedroom so I can use it."
Daniela
And i really struggle to find the phrase that you are refering to for the Notice letter about something positive about living separate and how the coparenting will work better. I don't know what to say. Please can you give me an idea? I looked in the video too but still can't figure it out how to say it. Thank you
Daniela
Following on from your message, the focus is giving him notice to leave. Anything else in your message or letter to him that he picks up on that is not relevant to him actually leaving, should not become a discussion point. Just focus on him getting somewhere else l to live.
Suzy Miller
re. positive comment - it's important to hold a vision of a successful co-parenting relationship even if things are really bad between you right now. You have to succeed in this because the welfare of your child is at stake. So adding in to the letter a phrase that confirms that this is really about making your co-parenting work as much as getting your bedroom back and not having to live in the same flat as your STBX husband - is a good thing.
Suzy Miller
I would add in that you want to use the bedroom so you don't have to continue sleeping in the living room. Re. outstanding bills - I suggest you give the amount and date of when you are sending the letter, and then the final amount for when he is dated to leave. It's a shame there is nothing there about how it will be much easier to get into a successful co-parenting rhythm once he has settled into a new home.
Suzy Miller