So that seems quite different from what you told me you were originally advised, but ultimately, you leaving has always been the quickest way for you to move on and set proper boundaries. But once again, you seem to be jumping to extreme situations when he may just leave after he gets the legal letter. You MUST have a lock on your door. IF he tries to break in for any reason, you call the police and option one, is that they then agree to apply for a non-molestation order which saves you going to court. If for some reason they fail to do anything, which would be odd, then option two, a refuge would make sense whilst you applied for an occupation order so you could get back into your flat without him being there. But right now, there is a chance he will take stock from the solicitors letter and see that you are serious about him vacating the flat. So why not try that first???? Has he ever hit you? Have you fear of physical harm? If not, and it's the verbal bullying and lack of boundaries that is the issue here, then that is still enough to make the police want to protect you IF he breaks into your bedroom when it's locked. This is why you must make your Ex KNOWS it is locked (in writing/proof it's been read/opened). Resorting to a refuge is very extreme and should be a last resort if you genuinely feel unsafe, or if the police fail to support you. But so far, they've been quite helpful haven't they? Re. Child arrangements order - you can do that yourself (via Families Need Fathers charity helpline and forms - info is in the coparenting toolkit area.) Yes, have the coparenting plan etc all ready, as we've discussed so many times before. Why would you need a contact centre? The only reason would be if your spouse had no-where else to see his son and he requested it. Or if you were in danger or your son was in danger. But that's not the case, is it? Your Ex may want to apply for a child contact order, but you'll have all the info ready to prove that he has plenty of access to his son. But not in your flat! You could go for the child contact order immediately if you want, but you don't need to pay hundreds to a solicitor as FNF can help you as mentioned. Also, you don't just use the mediation as a tick box for divorce. Joanne might persuade him to leave - so mediation is a good option if your Ex will comply. And when he gets a legal letter, he just might, if he's smart. Does that all make sense? - Give your Ex a printed copy of the coparenting plan current draft so he can see he has plenty of time with his son - Put a lock on your bedroom door. -Make sure your Ex knows it's there and he mustn't come into your room (your son can sleep in your Ex's room when he has his time with him) - keep the boundaries clear. - He gets the letter on Monday. - Get evidence that he's received it. Then see what he decides - trying to make decisions in advance is pointless. See what he decides to do next. The letter makes it plain that if he stays, he will be subjected to court action.