how long between filing online and your spouse receiving the petition

Posted By: Vinciane on 05/11/2023 at 07:59

I have raised and paid my petition last night but do not want my spouse to get it for a few days…I am unclear how long the court staff will take to check the paperwork before emailing the petition to my spouse.


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Thanks for sharing the update Vinciane. A little bird tells me it is your Birthday today? Happy Birthday! May the following years be full of peace, love - and liberation!

19:50 09/11/2023
suzy Miller

For everyone's info, it took 3 working days for the court staff to check my application (which was fine) and email the petition to my husband. So indeed there was no need to worry. I left my husband 2 days ago and he let me go as he was so in shock ...all is well now...let's cross fingers the rest will be fine too...

10:10 09/11/2023
Vinciane

This is the issue when only having a short meeting and not taking full advantage of the support on offer. I know that via my notes I definitely impressed the need for caution on the timing of the petition. I always do. Please use this group to ask in advance if taking key actions. So for example - if you are not sure when your spouse will receive the notification, ask before you petition. Hopefully it will all work out fine as presumably you went for post not email notification (which I always mention in my sessions and which would have been an option when petitioning) so hopefully after this stage of the process things will be less stressful. It’s a big event - it’s can create a lot of fear - and as before I highly recommend you have an introduction to Sarah C. Langford as already recommended for a no-obligation session. I think she will really help. Let me know if you would like that introduction to Sarah for a complimentary session.

15:39 05/11/2023
suzy Miller

12:47 05/11/2023
Vinciane

It was never made clear to me that once you file online and pay you are not being given a choice of date for the petition to reach him by post or by mail... What is done is done. I will call the court tomorrow to enquire...at least today is Sunday so nothing seems to have happened...

12:47 05/11/2023
Vinciane

I am concerned that you have petitioned your husband whilst living in the same house and not mentioned it to him. Is that because you plan to be out of the house when he receives it? Just so you know, you seeing him receive it and open it up - If it’s in letter form, watching him, open it on his email - does not count as him receiving the petition. He needs to respond to it to let the court know that he’s seen it There are ways to ensure that the court has that proof in the information in the resource hub, but sometimes you can get away with sharing an email or written response from your husband, that indicates clearly that he has received it, even if he refuses to respond to the petition and acknowledge its receipt to the court . If you are in any physical danger whatsoever, the receipt of the petition might trigger bad behaviour, then it would be sensible not to be in the house when he receives it. Or to have someone else there with you. Your safety is the primary concern here. if it’s simply that you’re worried he’s going to kick off verbally then I hope you have a bedroom door with a lock on it! Again, it would be good if you had someone else with you as a witness to any bad behaviour. This is not only because it reduces the bad behaviour of a spouse, but if they do become aggressive having that witness to make a formal complaint to the police about, is very useful. Sorry if the above seems a bit overly dramatic, but obviously this is a situation that others may find themselves in who are reading this, who are in genuine danger of abuse. A divorce petition can be triggering for some people. I did advise you before to ensure that he knows it’s coming to make sure that you are safe and supported at that point. I don’t understand why you’ve put yourself in this position? Or is it that the communication about what’s happening doesn’t arrive by registered mail till Tuesday?

11:16 05/11/2023
suzy Miller
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