Hello suzie Pension update, if a cetv was obtained and submitted sep/oct 2024 via solicitors when i has representation I am now lip and other party are aksing for updated version do i still need to submit one if it is less than 12 months since last Also other oarty are asking for randon statements from 23/24 all submitted via solicitor and updates january 2025 Do i have to comply and just given them statementd from jan-jul 2025??? How do i check my cetv pension myself , regrettably trusted my solicitor will all and now i am here ? And if they’re asking for 2022 statements as stated solicitor did not provide?? Then why did they mention this prior finances of February 2025 Or are they just trying to intimidate me now i am alone Sorry but how do i get information for cetv pension This is what there asking for don’t know if it is exactly what the court are asking for Don't know now i am LIP they being intimidating all statements were resubmitted jan 2025 before hearing

Good morning suzy , as i am lil other party are now preparing for the fdr and are asking me to give certain details , but keep advising me for missing statements, car insurance policy, asking about why i am using paypal have not declared a paypal account ???? I use PayPal to pay for amazon please please can i ask for your advise on how to reply. As i am lip, and heading to a fdr , other partys solicitors are asking for information can i please ask for advise on how to answer this , repeatedly asking for statements asking about paypal being used , but if these were not answered previously would this not have been addressed to a judge or questioned to my previous solicitor , they are asking random request that would and should have been answered by my previous solicitor prior to every hearing ?? Please could you help as i am so lost and scared Thanku jas

Hi Jaswinder - I’ve just sent you a link to join dTour.life - this includes a way to upload your bank accounts and those of your spouse (or any financial information you have) and create your own cash flow forecast showing your financial needs. There is also a coparenting plan template. If you want to work with the mediator Joanne - let me know and I can give her access so she can see your info - which she needs to do before you attend mediation. Also Ruth can help with the coparenting plan. Use the cashflow forecast to demonstrate your financial NEEDS - if you are working with a debt charity I can also give them access. Do not give access to your spouse or their lawyer - this is your safe space. They receive only what you choose to export and send them.

Hi suzy What would the cost be for a cash flow forecast ? Even tough i am LIP and with the sourness of my case i still don't think i should ignore the fact and let the judge know about my financial state once the house is sold and being let homeless with a disabled child Do you have a template to fill out a fp8 form or can i just email the court and advise i am a LIP

Hi suzy, Still have not heard from joanne I did receive a email this morning advising me she was looking forward to our call and i have not heard from her

Hello Jaswinder - I'm trying to find out what happened to Joanne. Let me know when she gets back to you.

If you provide Henry with the financial information and what you need to live on, mortgage/rent etc and care for your child - he can provide a cashflow forecast that demonstrates your needs clearly - which the judge seems to not be fully aware of. So he can do that for a fee (way less than legal fees) - and it's the most essential service you need right now.

Afternoon suzy, Unfortunately henry can not advise me with financial side ??

Children matters is separate from the finances. If you follow my suggestions you can ask for costs against Ex if he forces court - but if he's smart he'll do mediation or arbitration because it saves him money and time as well. A barrister may be needed if you have to stop him taking your child away or not to contribute financially or defend a court action etc - but that's expensive even direct access (no solicitor involved) - but again, try to use arbitration and demonstrate you want to stay out of court and request costs against him if he unreasonably forces court as the only option. Talk to Rebecca - she's a solicitor. Because it's all a bit of a mess, you many need a session with a lawyer to make sure you comply with any court orders already created or oppose them because you are already embroiled in that system to do with the children. But for the finances - do everything you can to keep it out of court. That's what the courts want. Better for you AND your STBX. But again, because of current legal wrangles, you may need one session to get advice but you may also get all you need in a free conversation with the arbitrator, as she is most likely going to be your best option if your spouse doesn't want to mediate or fails to cut a deal.

Hello suzy would u recommend a barrister , as i feel going alone i totally ruined my life ???? I do not see Ex completing outside of court , he has the means and money from father to go all the way and he want to ruin me and his child as she live with me and cao has been filed from my end 3 weeks ago as he threatened me with child arraignments and to use my code on conduct against me for child court and cafcass judge accepted this

For some reason the Letter template (making clear to a spouse how to avoid court and put a good case therefore for them paying costs if they force you into court just the same) won't load - so I'll email it direct. Any one else following this who wants a copy, let me know.

Hi Jaswinder - this may be because this was done via solicitors and the courts not DIY - but even so, if your spouse wants to delay to use dispute resolution, it would seem ridiculous to make you fill in loads of forms and pay money. They WANT you to stay out of court. So I suggest I intro you to an arbitrator - as you need to be clear on how that works as the alternative to mediation if your spouse can't come to an agreement that way - and she is also a solicitor so should be able to guide you on how to approach this court delay within your complimentary chat. You can then recommend her services to your spouse as another way to avoid court. I've attached the draft LETTER that can be used to clearly state to your spouse why and how he can avoid further legal fees, and it requires you to have already recommended mediation and arbitration (dated requests that you log in the letter). I recommend adapting the tone of the letter as well with Ruth's help, or with Joanne's - but you need to prove you have offered stay out of court as the best option and so you need to have spoken to and offered your spouse the chance to speak to both Joanne and an arbitrator. Don't want to overload you, but it's important to not only talk to Joanne, but then immediately request that your spouse speaks to her and considers mediation. Because of the nature of your STBX, also talking to and requesting he speaks with an arbitrator as soon as possible would be wise, due to the time restraints you have because of court dates. Obviously, you don't want to go into the mediator or arbitration until you have clear financial plans from someone like Henry, to explain the fair way to split the finances.

Hi suzy, I have a call with joanne on Friday this week ? I called the courts today as per them advising me the conditional order was read out on the 17th april, and i can apply for final order ? I called advising court i want to delay this as i have not concluded on finances to which she replies D11 form needs to be apllied for consented with ex £60 Non consented alone £190 Nit sure on what to do as i did not apply for the divorce myself , was done via solicitors ? They also advised to fill in a fp8 to tell the courts i have no representation i am a LIP