Posted By: Daniela on 07/01/2023 at 22:08

Hi Suzy,

When i put the lock, i want to tell ex that the exception for him to go in my room is when i’m at work and he needs to wake our son for school or on school holidays after our son wakes up to get him dressed and then spend the day out of my room.

But, when i’m home and i make food in the kitchen or go to toiet and our son is in my room, ex goes in to talk to him and starts playing with him…. he will ignore me. I can’t lock our son in my room while i’m making food in the kitchen or go to toilet…
So how do i go about this?

He just threatened me saying:” One day he’ll see our son every day”…
I don’t know what the heck he’s planning….

Thank you.

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Re the pdf you sent me - I think sending your ex something about being a narcissist is not going to help your coparenting relationship. Regarding your message above, once again, you’re setting yourself up for a difficult situation rather than considering how to avoid it. As we have discussed on many occasions, whilst your ex still lives there, there’s not that much you can do, which is why you need to get him out. However, when you are in your room with or without your son, then you can lock the door and have some privacy because it’s also your bedroom. I don’t understand why you’re making this so complicated. it would be less complicated if you requested that your ex did not go in the room at any point and that when he’s with your son according to your parenting plan, that your son stays in his room. You have said in the past that this is possible if your Ex clears some space. That would be the most clear-cut way to deal with this until your ex leaves. Or you can simply insist that when you are in the room, he is not in the room. And just live with it, the rest of the time. All you need to do is to decide and then stick to it. It doesn’t really matter what you decide, simply that you do make a decision and that you stick to it . Otherwise your child is going to get incredibly confused.

23:04 07/01/2023
suzy Miller
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