Pregnant and Stressed – CoParenting resources
Pregnant and Stressed – CoParenting resources
Susan Cowe Miller highlights how EFT can benefit you and your unborn child
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) aka Tapping is a Self-Help tool to lower and manage anxieties, feelings of anger or unfairness, overwhelm, panic or fear.
Are you pregnant and troubled by anxiety?
- Is your relationship with your partner in trouble?
- Has your marriage broken down?
- You have been left suddenly and must deal with the pregnancy yourself.
- You are struggling with this situation and have very little emotional support.
Working with a practitioner can clear deep rooted anxieties and offers resolution to long term stress and traumatic issues.
Your unborn child can sense trauma, shock and anxiety experienced by you. Your unborn child cannot disassociate from your feelings.
When you become pregnant, the baby growing inside you cannot disassociate from what you are feeling. Your feelings of shock, high stress or deep anxiety are transferred directly to your unborn child. Months later when it is time for your child to be born it may enter into the world, believing subconsciously, that the world is a dangerous place. The baby may be anxious, difficult to settle. A cycle of new anxiety may be established.
(A child can take on ancestral patterns of behaviour and beliefs subconsciously; directly from you the mother. Often as adults we need to clear some ancestral beliefs and behaviours which we have inherited from our mother and before. Quite simply if they do not serve why would we wish to keep them. We need to clear).
Young Children and babies in-utero can feel stress
Stress and anxiety is not just an adult concern. Children under two years old and in-utero, sense and are emotionally affected by stress and disharmony in the home.
Children can sense when a parent feels less stressed. Previous negative behavioural patterns can decrease as children sense this change in a parent.
When a demanding or needy child has a sense of more calm, they subconsciously adapt their previous attention seeking behaviour to what might be considered as more acceptable behaviour. It is of course all relative to the individual.
A happy and relaxed child who has shown signs of emotional distress can subconsciously dismiss and remove troubling behaviours very, very quickly. This is possible perhaps, because they have not lived with and been affected by parental disharmony over a long period of time. Less emotional upset has been caused. Emotional distress can evaporate quicker than a child who knows only disharmony or upset.
Once a baby or child senses calm and love coming from the father or mother all relationships can improve very quickly.
Be Mindful of Self-Care opportunities:
Techniques, strategies and working towards a better personal situation is empowering. When you feel better, your unborn child can sense this.
Benefits of learning EFT
It can help you to de-stress and therefore your unborn child will sense a positive change . You can feel more calm and in control; your baby will feel the same.
What happens during Tapping?
- Crucially EFT works at two levels.
We quieten and clear Mind Chatter; our Inner Voice. The voice some of us mistakenly think is correct and in charge of who and what we are. The Inner Voice which goes over and over our negative beliefs and anxieties. When we listen to that negative voice we give these anxieties more and more power. We are confused because we think these beliefs and thoughts must be true.
But this Inner Voice can be hushed when we release the energy at Cellular Level .
How is negative blocked energy released?
We release the blocked energy- the feelings of stress and physical discomfort- by Tapping on specific Energy meridians in our body (Acupuncturist use needles to do this; we Tap). Very specifically we state
- where we feel our discomfort.
- describe its shape, size and colour.
The more specific we can be the better so that blocked energy/stress can be worked on and released.
We voice the specific fear we hear in our head and by combining Voicing and Tapping, we can release the blocked energy. The charge is gone.
How long do I need to tap?
Five to ten minutes of Tapping can make significant improvements to how we feel. When we feel more calm and in control we are better fit to deal with our given situation.
EFT is practiced and shared by Counsellors, Hypnotherapists, Doctors, Psychiatrists…..
Perhaps it’s time for you and your baby or child to benefit from Tapping?
For specific Tapping Routines please visit my website: EFT Video tapping routines.
Contact Susan on 07917 680 967 to find out more or visit Hampshire-EFT.
Susan is the author of Survive and Thrive after Trauma.
She specialises in Relationship Stress, Pregnancy and Infertility issues, and Emotional Trauma relating to physical health issues.
SuzyMillerCreator of Best Way To Divorce. International Divorce Divorce Strategist and TEDx Speaker.
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