SET THE C.O.M.P.A.S.S. Strategies (1min)

STRATEGIES

Partly left brain

Strategies are partly unemotional planning – which is what you need. But simply knowing what the legal options are is a hundred miles away from knowing what the real life outcomes are likely to be.

Personally, I think a strategy should be based on reality, not fantasy or wishful thinking.

Partly right brain

A good strategy also springs from compassion and standing in the other person’s shoes. You need to stop thinking about what they ‘should’ do, but what they are likely to do.

KEY QUESTIONS:

So the key questions you are likely to be asking are:

What if they are trying to push for court and won’t contemplate dispute resolution?

What if they keep lying and won’t produce the right information?

What if they are defying court orders regarding Maintenance Pending Suit or Child Contact Orders?

If your response to the above is simply to hand it all over to a lawyer and be the victim, that may not serve you well.

Better to get the legal advice and understand the reality of the family court system – in other words, how much time and money do you need to spend getting a STBX to actually comply with a court order – but also to seak out other avenues through anything from dispute resolution to leveraging online resources like co-parenting planners and online shared diaries specifically designed for parents in conflict.

Yes, sometimes you need to use the courts to set boundaries, but as they often don’t work that well, you’ll need to have additional strategies.

This is the kind of work that I do with clients all the time.

You can do this – use the resources and the psychological strategies I’ve talked in this course and develop some strong strategies of your own.