Important Topics Interracial Couples Must Discuss Before Marriage*

Important Topics Interracial Couples Must Discuss Before Marriage*

No matter what the future holds before you say “I do” to your partner, there are a few things that you should discuss. If you have divorced from a previous marriage, you want to make sure your next marriage is the best it can be, and talking difficult subjects through right from the start is a smart move. But you might be asking yourself: What topics? How often should I bring it up? Well, this article has some answers for you! 

 This blog post will cover essential topics every interracial couple must discuss before marriage.

Some relationships end up breaking or, even worse, divorcing. It would help if you didn’t wait for that time; instead, work on finding a central point in these topics.

 

Country of Residence

 

Do you plan to live in one place or another? Where do your families currently reside? Will they be moving if you get married and have children?

 

You should first agree on where you will live permanently or temporarily. Then, for example, you can apply for Irish citizenship and move to your spouse’s country of residence later on.

 

Culture and Designations

 

Do you want to keep your cultural background? What are the different designations on both of your passports? Will one culture have a more decisive influence over the other in terms of traditions and rituals? Do you intend to raise children according to only one parent’s nationality, or will they share both parents’ nationalities equally?

 

You might also explore how every ceremony embraces specific rituals from each family, such as wearing a Kimono during Japanese ceremonies instead of an Irish wedding dress. 

 

These questions can help you determine how much space there is between two cultures and help prevent conflict when living together later on down the road.

 

Race Differences

 

You can’t deny the history of interracial couples treatments, and this has unfortunately influenced some opinions. You’ll need an understanding of each other’s opinions about these topics to move forward with confidence. 

 

Some might say that they don’t want children who look racially different because “it would be too confusing.” 

 

Others might believe that all colours matter equally. If one person looks like their family while the other does not, you will also need agreement on how much weight shall be placed into physical appearance when considering marriage.

 

Language Preferences

 

If there are any language barriers between the two of you, what will happen once kids come into play? How will that affect them and their development? What can you do now so your future children won’t suffer from this same issue as well? The key is finding a balance where everyone feels comfortable speaking their native tongue while still learning English.

 

Religious Differences and Similarities

 

It’s always essential to discuss religion because it plays an integral role in marriage. Whether one person practices Christianity while the other is Buddhist doesn’t matter; make sure both parties know about the other’s religion and its significance. 

 

If one person is Christian but the future mother-in-law practices Buddhism, there might be a conflict when honouring family traditions.

 

Names of Children

 

Surnames don’t always play a role in culture; some countries like China do not use last names. You will need an agreement on how this can affect their identity down the road. 

 

Some couples choose to make it easier for kids by giving them only one name. In contrast, others are adamant that each kid should carry both parents’ surnames to avoid any potential confusion as much as possible.

 

In conclusion, there are many things to discuss before marriage; however, it is important not to dwell on the negative aspects and instead focus on what you can do together.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

* contributed post

suzyMiller

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