How To Recover As A Couple After The Stillbirth Of Your Baby*

How To Recover As A Couple After The Stillbirth Of Your Baby*

When you and your partner make a choice to start your own family, it is an exciting time, and when you find out your expecting can be life-changing. However, stillbirths affect thousands of couples every year, and if you have found yourself in this situation, you will know that there are few things more heartbreaking to have to endure.

The loss of your baby will be hard on you personally and will thus have a knock-on effect on your relationship. During this difficult time of high emotions, you need to be looking out for each other instead of fighting or falling apart. Of course, this is easier said than done when grieving the loss of a child.

To help you get through this together, this guide has put together some useful pointers on what you can do be stay close and support each other during this hard time in your lives.

Understand the effects a stillbirth can have on your relationship

Going through a stillbirth is something that, if you have to go through, will hopefully only ever be something you have to endure once. Due to this, it can be near impossible to know how losing your child this way could affect your relationship, which is why it is so important to do your research. The effects of stillbirth on your marriage can include:

  • Tension
  • Risk of separation
  • Negative effects on intimacy between you
  • Conflict

Most of the above problems will be a direct result of not communicating properly. People process grief in different ways, and that can be true even inside of a couple. Make sure you check in with each other and always offer mutual support for whatever stage of grief you are each at.

Why couples counselling is worth looking into

The benefits of couples counselling of manifold even when you are not dealing with a traumatic event and can make you a stronger unit who are better able to understand and support each other.

One of the biggest benefits of seeing a couple’s counsellor is that you will both have a safe space to be truly honest with one another. The counsellor will act as a buffer and voice of calm as you both process the difficult emotions of sadness and anger with one another. Being able to do this in a way that is healthy will help to keep you close as a couple and improve your relationship overall.

Think about your legal options

There are cases where stillbirths could have bee avoided. If the medical professionals who were tasked with keeping your child safe didn’t properly monitor their development in the womb, misdiagnosed something, or didn’t flag potential risks that then lead to the loss of your child, you have legal rights to sue for compensation with the help of those at the-medical-negligence-experts.co.uk.

While money cannot fix everything, it can provide you both with the financial security to give you both peace of mind as you process your grief.

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suzyMiller

Creator of Best Way To Divorce. International Divorce Divorce Strategist and TEDx Speaker.
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