Finding Your Confidence After Divorce*
Finding Your Confidence After Divorce*
Getting divorced can be a massive setback in anyone’s life. You may have been comfortable and happy in your relationship, but when situations change and you find yourself on your own it can feel as though you have had the rug pulled from under you.
One of the major problems that people face after getting divorced is a lack of confidence. Losing one of the most important things in your life can really make you start to question who you are, and often this leads people to a period of self-doubt.
The good news is that this is a phase and it is entirely possible to get through this lack of confidence. Here are some tips for ways you can to this.
Change The Focus Of Your Life
Getting self-confidence back will mean doing something positive for yourself, and what better way to do that than by going back to university and going a course.
Studying will not only distract you from the breakup and the negative emotions you may be facing, but it will also provide you with lots of new skills and knowledge so that you can build up your confidence.
Where you are looking for a job as a pilot and are looking at the ACS top aviation universities, or fancying doing a course in fine art so that you can express yourself, the world is your oyster and you can make some great opportunities for yourself.
Do The Things That You Love
As life goes on, and when we’re married, we often put our passions on the back burner. It may have been an interest in films or music, or it may be a love of travelling and seeing the world.
Book yourself on a holiday and visit the places that you want to see. It can be daunting travelling on your own, but many people discover that it is an enjoyable experience.
Whatever you love to do, fill your life with your passions and allow yourself the opportunity to really enjoy doing whatever you want.
Get A Makeover For You
Looking good is a great way of building your confidence up. Dressing well for yourself and getting your hair done in a new style will help you to build your self-esteem. There is no need to try to impress anyone else, the person whose opinion matters the most is you.
Join Some Social Groups
Very often the breakdown of a relationship causes you to have to split your friend groups. You may come out of a long relationship with fewer friends than when you went in and this can have a massive negative impact on your confidence as it causes you to feel isolated.
Get out and mingle and make new friends. You’re not trying to replace your former partner, you are just looking to widen your social circle. Join clubs and classes based around similar interests and you will soon find new and exciting people to call friends.
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6th March 2022
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