Blaming the journalists may not be getting to the core of the issue

I’ve just read an excellent, brilliant expose of the very poor reporting and bias of some reporters when reporting on Divorce cases. Over the years, I’ve explained to several journalists who specialise in covering divorce, what a Collaborative Lawyer is, how mediation works and why financial planners are more useful than lawyers in helping couples with assets to work out an initial plan of action.
I have had endless requests – almost annually – of “Divorce Parties are the new thing – do you know anyone who is having one?”. After explaining that I have been receiving the same requests for several years, so divorce parties are in fact, not ‘news’, I suggest that they might instead want to focus on the rise in children self-harming due to their parents nasty divorce, or the increase (at least double I believe) in suicide rates for men after divorce. At which point they usually splutter something about ‘oh yes it’s so much better if it’s all done in a friendly way’ and the conversation grinds to a halt.
I was almost on an ITV facebook live Q&A tonight – and my blog post was to be shared giving real-life guidance on how to keep a divorce nicer than it might otherwise be – but the ITV lawyers decided they wanted a ‘Psych’ instead. Sadly, a ‘Psych’ (Psychotherapist I presume) is unlikely to be sharing information about the value of getting financial advice from experts, or the power of coaching if you want to break out of the ‘victim’ mentality, or even have much clarity on how mediation works and that collaborative law and family arbitration even exist.
So the fundamental info (from the trailers of the divorce documentary I’ve seen on the facebook page so far) is that you can go to a Divorce Hotel and get divorced in a weekend, and that the national Q&A will be hosted by a lawyer (luckily, a Collaboratively-trained one, but still someone who participates in a current toxic family law system when they are not doing collab cases) and a therapist who is trained to help you deal with your emotions. Other collaborators are expelled by the media lawyers fears over god knows what happening – even though the researchers tried to push for something different.
In the context of the excellent article above – it’s a bit ironic?
Suzy Miller
Divorce Strategist
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