7 Tips for Emotionally Recovering from a Divorce*
7 Tips for Emotionally Recovering from a Divorce*
There is no sugar-coating it – divorcing is hard. Punch to the stomach, head underwater kind of hard. While there is no way to get rid of the emotions that come with it, that doesn’t mean there aren’t things you can do to help. If you’re going through a divorce, here are seven tips for emotionally recovering.
1: Get Counseling
You might view yourself as an emotionally strong individual who doesn’t need therapy, but when going through such a difficult period, it’s OK to admit that you need a little direction. A counselor can help with that. Even just a couple of sessions could help you see things more clearly, thus speeding up your recovery process.
2: Spend Time Traveling
It might be a cliché, but traveling after a hard break-up, especially at the end of a marriage, can really help you find out who you are as an individual. You’ll meet new people, see new places, and make memories that’ll help you get over your old relationship sooner than you’d think. It’s important not to be reckless with your traveling, though – always tell people where you’re going and book places in advance. For a short vacation post-divorce, be sure to use Parkon.com for your airport parking. Booking this early keeps any stress to a minimum and gets you excited about what lies ahead.
3: Let Yourself Cry
Holding your tears back isn’t healthy. While it might feel painful to cry in the beginning, after a while, you’ll come to enjoy the catharsis that accompanies it. If you need a little encouragement to get the tears flowing, sticking on a sad film can help.
4: Avoid Bad Mouthing
Talking bad about your ex-partner is the last thing you should do. Even if you have justifiable reasons to dislike them, bad-mouthing your ex-partner could reach them and create even more bad blood. Of course, ranting to your BFF is fine, but you must avoid spreading negativity about them.
5: Find a New Hobby
While divorces are often sad moments in people’s lives, try to look at it as a new beginning. With new beginnings come new interests. By pursuing a hobby, you’ll have something to keep your mind occupied and put your energy into while going through the divorce. Plus, you might just end up making lots of new friends!
6: Avoid Dating Too Quickly
Some people jump straight into the dating scene post-divorce, but you should try to avoid it, at least straight away. Not only do you want to avoid putting your emotional baggage on a stranger, but you also want to ensure you spend enough time alone to truly know who you are as an individual. Don’t worry – you have plenty of time to date once you feel genuinely ready for it.
7: Take it One Day at a Time
It takes time for heartbreak to heal, especially when you’ve spent a long time with a person. Suddenly, everything’s changed, and your comfort has disappeared. Rather than trying to feel OK too quickly, take it one day at a time and allow yourself to feel the negative emotions. You’ll come out the other side much stronger for it.
* contributed post
SuzyMillerCreator of Best Way To Divorce. International Divorce Divorce Strategist and TEDx Speaker.
6th March 2022
27th September 2023
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