5 Important Things You Need To Do After A Divorce*

5 Important Things You Need To Do After A Divorce*

Most people don’t enter into a loving marriage thinking about the chances of a divorce. Unfortunately, divorce does happen for one reason or another. Understandably, the pain it leaves behind can be unbearable. But, as challenging as the process can be, the decisions you take immediately after are vital. So, what do you do immediately when your divorce process is finalised? What steps should you take next? Here are some essential things you need to do after a divorce.

Review your divorce judgement

Most divorces can be settled before trial, and couples have the chance to resolve their issues through lawyers or mediation. After your divorce, your lawyer should help you understand the terms of your divorce agreement by reviewing and explaining them to you. While this can be quite a stressful and emotional process, it is essential as it helps you understand the implications of your current status and know what steps to take next. For example, if your ex-spouse was an immigrant, you need to understand the implication of the divorce on your status, something immigration lawyers can assist you with. 

 

Make a financial plan

It is best to start planning your financial future, even while the divorce proceedings are ongoing. Several couples going through a divorce are either caught on their blindsides or may not have wanted the divorce, to begin with. In such cases, these people may end up financially ill-prepared for life after divorce. Therefore, to ensure you are prepared, speak to a financial planner or expert to help you map out a financial strategy.

 

Rediscover who you used to be 

If you were married for a long time, the chances are you may have made several sacrifices for the sake of the marriage, from career ambitions to business goals and other dreams. Once the dust settles on your divorce, it is time to rediscover who you used to be. 

Go back to the hobbies you always loved, whether hanging out with friends, travelling, etc. 

 

Discover a new you

Perhaps the old you isn’t something you want to go back to. In that case, you might want to discover a new side of yourself. As painful as the divorce process might be, you can consider the opportunity to discover a new you as a small silver lining worth appreciating. 

From trying a new appearance to taking on a new hobby or job, don’t shut the door to the possibility of change. The last thing you want to do at this stage is to carry the heavy burden of your previous relationship or marriage into your new life. 

 

Create a support system for yourself

 

It is essential to give yourself enough time to be sad about the end of your marriage. It is also equally necessary to surround yourself with supportive people, especially during the first few months following the finalisation of the divorce process. Your support system should comprise of people you love and trust, capable of helping you find a way to work through your feelings.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

* contributed post

suzyMiller

Creator of Best Way To Divorce. International Divorce Divorce Strategist and TEDx Speaker.
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