3 Tips To Have A Stress-Free Move Even When Going Through Divorce*
3 Tips To Have A Stress-Free Move Even When Going Through Divorce*
Major life changes will require you to shift your priorities. Regardless of how planned you think your life is, you have to change your goals in order to cope with the changes happening around you. This is usually what happens when going through a divorce. More often than not, divorce will require you or your partner to move out of the house.
And while a divorce is challenging to the couple involved, this phase can have long-term effects on the children involved, as well. Depending on age, it’ll be hard for children to understand why their parents have to separate and hire long distance movers to live in another house.
As a parent, there are several ways on how you can still have a stress-free move even when going through a divorce, such as:
- Practice Communication
Communication is essential in maintaining healthy relationships and accomplishing tasks. Practicing clear and proper communication allows different parties to vent out their opinions, making it easy for everyone to cooperate with each other.
If your partner volunteered to move out and the children stay with you, make sure to explain to the children why your partner is leaving. You need to do this by using a communication channel and method that suits the age of your children.
If your kids are too still infants, you might not need to explain why your partner is leaving. You can choose to open up about the divorce once your children start asking questions about it.
On the other side of the coin, if your children are already old and mature enough, gradually explain to them why you and your partner are going through a divorce and what will happen next. Children in this age will usually have a lot of questions and might even be curious about how much to tip movers, and as a parent, you should be ready to answer all of these.
- Inform Your Children That They Can Always Visit The Other Parent
One of the reasons why moving out is stressful is because children tend to cling themselves to the other parent. If you’re a mother who successfully raised your children with the presence of your partner, expect that your children will long for their father regularly.
As one way of providing emotional assurance to your children, let them know that they can still visit and spend time with the other parent even if they are no longer living in the same house. You can also come up with a schedule and let your children know when is the best time for them to see the other parent.
Doing this is a great way to maintain positive relationships with the family. Plus, letting your children about the schedule can also keep stress at bay because they won’t be sad just because the other parent is leaving. With this schedule, they will have something to look forward to even with the changes happening because of the divorce.
- Avoid The Drama Between You And The Other Parent
It’s common for divorced couples to end the relationship on a sour note. However, if you want to lessen stress as the other parent is moving out, both parents should avoid unnecessary drama on the day of the move. Both adults should be responsible enough to set aside their issues and function as a parent in front of their children.
Regardless of the reason why you and your partner decided to call it quits, you should still be able to look and function as a parent. Creating this facade will allow your children to think that both of their parents still respect and care for each other.
Seeing this on the day of move won’t pressure the children to take one side, making it easy for them to ward off stress.
4. Function As A Parent
Your responsibility as a parent doesn’t end the moment you and your partner decide to get divorced. On the contrary, your children greatly need your guidance, patience, and love during this phase. It’ll be easier for them to understand and adjust to these major life changes if one or better yet if both of their parents are still giving them the emotional support that they need.
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